Sneaky…and Thoughtful

Ok…. which one of you nominated me for a bloggers bash award??

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I woke this morning to an email that held this gem (above)!! I have been nominated for Best Personal Development Blog and it has to be one of you who did it.

First off I would like to say that I am in shock. After that wears off I think I will find my magnifier and begin looking for clues to find out who exactly nominated me. That is unless they confess.

I am really without words at the moment and awestruck that someone would consider Revenge of Eve. What an honor! I mean … we are a hot mess around here.!! Life has thrown me some curveballs and while I do my best to catch them before smashing me in my face, I hardly thought I was doing good at it. But someone seems to think I am doing ok and can I tell you what a confidence booster that is?!

This community of bloggers amazes me each day. The level of support and encouragement has been what keeps me going on the days I want to shut it down. I am given advice from those who truly care about mine and my daughters well-being. I have a circle of friends now that I can rely on if I am in need and even if I just want something.. they are there. I am not sure what I have done to be so gifted with love from my fellow bloggers but it is an amazing feeling I tell ya!!

Of course now all I can think of are ways to improve the actions I am taking in my personal development in order to be of better service for y’all. But I think I will sit and let this feeling marinate. To whomever did this, gosh, you are so kind and thoughful and sneaky!! You made my day and quite possibly my week. I feel like I have already won!! Thank you for thinking of me and for taking the time out of your day to nominate R.O.E. This act makes me feel seen and heard and isn’t that all we really want?

Now I know what it feels like to be nominated for a Grammy!!! lmao… Just kidd’n 😉

Lots of Love,


2019 Challenge: The Remix

Hey, Rockstars!

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Last week I announced my dislike for the 52-week lists challenge. I have thought about it and have decided to continue,

But. 

I will be adding my unique style

These questions are not to achieve happiness rather bring a realness to our blogs.


For those of you who have followed R.O.E. for a while, this may seem a bit familiar. That’s because it is. Do you remember G2K?? (Get 2 Know)? Well, I decided to somewhat combine the two.

Introducing…


So You Know (S.Y.K.)

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So You Know

The Deets

  • A number of questions will be asked. At least 1, no more than 5.
  • Questions will range in subject from cherries to prostitution.
  • Participation will consist of you creating a post on your website, listing the questions and responding.
  • Pingback to any SYK post

My intentions are to ask questions that provoke thought, create a scenario, ask opinions on controversial topics (not necessarily headlines), make you laugh, teach you about yourself, and/or entertain you and your readers, as well as, give a little insight into who is behind the blog.

Any participation is greatly appreciated.

If you come up with a question, let’s chat! Send it on over and I’ll fit it in (and credit you).


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Reeeemixxx!

S.Y.K

We are going to start off with a pow!! The first edition of S.Y.K. is going to make you think and give your followers insight. Ready??? Oh, yea. We are starting today 🙂

  • What is the soul?
  • What is religion?
  • What is spirituality?
  • What purpose do humans serve in the scheme of things?

A Few things to Keep in Mind

  • There are no right or wrong answers… Your answers = Your opinion = Your life
  • Answer a few or one, whatever you are comfortable with
  • Pingback to any S.Y.K. post
  • Use the hashtag #SYK to tag your post
  • Be real.  If you feel a certain type of way, say it.  You were asked your opinion 😉 (double dog dare)

That’s all folks!! Just a friendly game of questions. I can’t wait to read your answers.

Have any questions for me?? Ask away… Let’s chat!! In the comments or privately, your choice. Have a wonderful Monday, y’all!

Peace out homies 😉

A Little Bit About This and That

Bonding

Often times the bond between mother and daughter is considered one of strain. All too often we hear of the arguments, attitude, and agitation that create stress for this feeble relationship. Teenage years is when most girls begin their menstrual cycle resulting in catastrophic, irrelevant emotional outburst. Ironically us women are similar to a gang. We cycle with the other women who are in our immediate circle after a short time of being around each other.

Check out Here’s the Plan, Man

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No relationship is quite as primal as the one between a mother and her daughter. “It’s the original relationship, and it’s also a relationship that has been sentimentalized but not honored,” says Lee Sharkey, Ph.D., who directs the Women’s Studies program at the University of Maine at Farmington, where she teaches a popular course in mother-daughter relationships. “Women grow up and our energy is largely turned toward men, but the original love relationship is with a mother. If we as daughters don’t acknowledge that, we’re closing ourselves off from a great source of power and fulfillment and understanding of ourselves.

I would like to imagine that my daughter’s relationship with me is one based on respect, trust, and honesty, at least 85% of the time. Our personalities are complete opposites and I believe that to be why we are able to make life work the way we do. She (Kid) is much kinder, considerate, relaxed, and respectful than I ever was as a pre-teen-young adult. She favors her father’s demeanor. She is content by herself which was unheard of when I was her age.

Prior to my teenage years, I was self-reliant, self-entertained, and independent. Somewhere around middle school, I began seeking validation from my peers.  I strongly believe this is where I got lost in life.

This is the time of my daughter’s life when I realized it was time to get sober. The depression was in control and I was a shell. I believe everything happens for a reason and I feel in my heart this is when she needed her dad’s guidance more than mine, although it was not a planned decision.

Not only was she transitioning from living with her mother to living with her father, but she also had to transition from one school district to another.

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One thing I pride myself on as a mother is encouraging my daughter to be herself. I never realized how stable she is in her being until she reached high school. Her friends will go out and drink, some smoke marijuana, and she is content sitting at home watching tv. Rarely will she ask to go do something but when she does, the answer is always yes… which leads to my weakness as a mother. I find it difficult to tell her no. In fact, I do not know if I have ever. Of course, if it is something that will harm her, I say no but if she outright asks for something from me, she’s going to get it. She knows it too. She is such a great teen that I feel as though she should be rewarded.


Personality


My daughter has a docile, quiet nature.  She is supportive of her friend’s struggles, always offering solid advice.  She isn’t one to tell you what you want to hear rather what needs to be said.  At times she can be timid.  She is patient and observant which allows her to form her own opinion.  I am not claiming that she is perfect but pretty damn close 😉

She is a great soccer player but it didn’t come easy for her.  She has put in work to get where she is.  She dedicated herself to it and has come far.  I would say that he is not a follower but not exactly a leader either.   She is somewhere in the middle.  Like a silent partner.  I don’t know how to explain it.  She is just laid back.

Physical

My daughter was a spitting image of her father but as she has gotten older her face is thinning out and she somewhat favors me.   She has my t-zone for sure.  She has a round face whereas I have an oval-shaped face.


I thought for sure she would tower over me but such is not the case.  I am 5’10 and she has stopped growing at a mere 5’6.  We know that she will not get any taller because she had to see a foot specialist and he told us her growth plate has closed.  Never did I imagine her being my sister’s height.

We are all guilty of preconceived notions of how or what our children will be like.  In my case, I was destined to have a disrespectful, brat when in fact I was blessed with an angel.  I suppose I am enough brat for the both of us.  She is her own person with her own opinions and beliefs.  Her father and I did one thing right and that was to raise a respectful, dignified young lady who loves herself.   And we didn’t do it alone.  There has been a community of friends that have had their hand in raising her.  She makes us all proud.


Make sure to look out for tomorrows post 🙂 And to my subscribers….. get ready because this week I will be sending out my first video!! I’ve just gotta record it …. lmao but no really!!

Gotta dash ~ I’m here if anyone needs me ~ always

Here’s the Plan, Man

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February

Two things come to mind when I hear or see the month February. The most important of the two is Kid’s birthday (This will be everyone’s second birthday with her). Last year we celebrated by throwing a small shindig at a local Mardi Gras (2nd Feb thought) parade. For whatever reason, parties aren’t her gig. So.. Momma came up with her own way to celebrate her.

For the month of February, Revenge of Eve will be themed, centered around my daughter!! All post will be dedicated to her and/or about her. I think this is a wonderful way to celebrate her.

Timeline

These post will visit way back when. She graced us with her presence at 3:19 pm, February 6, 2002. It was a Wednesday and the coldest day of the year. I am going to dig through storage in hopes of finding her baby book.

I bought the newspaper on the day she was born and clipped the weather, hers and ours (me & her dads) horoscopes, along with the prices of gas and a few other things for reference. She has always loved looking at her baby book. She gets a twinkle in her eye and a smile takes over her face. ❤ I am gonna dig and dig until I find it. I am excited about this trip down memory lane. Eek!

Goals

As far as goals for this month go, I’m not sweat’n too many. I will set my goal at one and it will be my ultimate goal; Define Who I Am

I will approach this as each day arrives. I’m gonna keep journaling and try to dig a little deeper. Part of loving myself is to look after my mental state as well as my physical state. I will make appointments to see the eye doctor, the gyno, and find a therapist and make an appointment.

More Life News

I got my second job back. Yes, I am going back to the same bar except for this time, I will speak up when or if I feel like boundaries have been crossed. This means not excusing someone’s behavior because they drank too much. Once you build a repertoire with bar patrons, if they are good to you, you go back. The crowd at this particular bar are pretty awesome (most of them).

Lately, I have done my best to observe one of our managers at my casino job. She approaches people well. I may have discussed working on my delivery before but I somehow to dropped that from my radar. I am really going to learn how to verbalize my boundaries, when necessary, without offending the other party. I suck at communication with strangers. I do not know how to have a small talk. I am awkward. You can ask the girls at work. They mess with me about it.

My problem has always been holding it in and given the chance, I use my words. They stream out of my mouth like hot lava spewing from a volcano and their power tends to linger like the lava that flows into the valley. I do not want to do that because my intention is never to hurt someone’s feelings but I must realize when they go into territory I defend.


On a more personal note

I know among bloggers we can form a bond and circles. I would love to open my circle of blogging buddies and invite anyone who has a question about anything mental health-related, that loves stationery, has a question about blogging (literally no question is a stupid question), new to the scene and would like to have an opportunity to guest post about mental health, creativity, journaling, arts and crafts, relationships…. Chime in!!! My circle of friends is amazing!! So supportive and encouraging. Really!! Don’t believe me? Follow along on our journeys, comment, and we will do the same… We love this shit! 😂

That about wraps it up.

Ta~ta,

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3.2.1. Quote Me: Creativity

It is exciting when other bloggers nominate you to participate in a community tag. I can always count on Beckie to include me.  The tag is created by A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip. 

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Rules: 3.2.1 Quote Me!

Thank the selector

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Tag 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

Note: Although this is the topic for today there is no specific deadline to it, mean answer as and when.

Thank you Beckie!!

If you’ve spent any time on my blog, you are familiar with Beckie and if not, you are missing out. She is a blogger with personality and tenacity. Check her out and give her a follow. She has supported my journey closely and blogging wouldn’t be the same without her.


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Revenge of Eve-community tag

The three bloggers I nominate are:

Trina from It’s Good to be Crazy Sometimes

Suze from Its A Colorful Life

Cyanny from Cyranny’s Cove

I can’t wait to read these ladies quotes. Make sure to check out everyone’s blog. Support makes the world go around. Until next time…

Showing tha Love

Supporting Others

When Possible

Reading Joy Roses post has me nostalgic and reminded me of how good it feels to receive support. Ya know, blogger to blogger support. We create series and ask others to participate and when just one other blogger does, it lifts your spirits. Small acts like commenting and emails loaded with encouraging words have the potential to brighten someone’s week! Any gesture that acknowledges we are being heard satisfies our souls. Perhaps you can show the love by reaching out to a blogger you admire and tell them what it is they do that inspires you.

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I’ve received an astounding amount of support from (cue shout outs) in no particular order:

Ashley: MentalHealth@Home

Beckie: Beckies Mental Mess

Cyranny: Cyranny’s Cove

SonofaBeach

Carol Anne: Therapy Bits

Amy: Amy Westphal

Trina: Its Good to be Crazy Sometimes

A new blogger who I enjoy reading and share similar interests with is Suzi at My Colourful Life


Supporting Joy

Do ya’ll remember Mad Libs?

Mad Libs are where you ask someone else for nouns, verbs, adjectives, exclamations, etc.  and you fill in the blanks with their answers to make a story, which many times ends up being crazy.

Joy

“Earlier this afternoon I was happily  …….. (verb) . Time passed and later I  looked at the ….(noun) and knew I had to go. I got ready to go and then bent down to pick up our  …..  ( adjective)  ….. (noun) when I suddenly felt  ….(describe a feeling)  shoot through my ….  (noun)  and  ( a word that you yell! ) came out of my mouth! Now here I sit with a ….(noun)  on my (noun). “

ok, fill in the blanks. I am going to do so blindly by counting the number of words and grouping them like.. I need 3 verbs and two nouns (example) I will write the words on a sheet of paper 🙂 Annnd thennn I will plug them in to create a story.

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actual list

Mad Lib

“Earlier this afternoon I was happily running . Time passed and later I  looked at the car and knew I had to go. I got ready to go and then bent down to pick up our delicate bed when I suddenly felt  calm shoot through my flower and DAMN came out of my mouth! Now here I sit with a toe  on my son. “

Bahahahaha.. That was pretty funny and so was participating. If ya want, play along or show your support however you’d like.

Love Y’all like a fat kid loves cake