Please Excuse the Mess

Mental Health & Recovery
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As some of you may know, R.O.E. is undergoing some growing pains – most effected by these adjustments is the design. Originally I warned that I would not be investing the time into redesigning because it is likely things will soon change. What I have privately decided is to take it easy on the blogging front over the summer but also, I cannot allow my space to look ugly. Lol…but seriously. There is no way I can click on this site and be proud of any of the content when the photo sizes are customized to suite a premium theme when I have opted for the free site for the time being. I cannot do it. I also will not fret about having everything changed in a set amount of time.

The photo above is my new logo and I love it. I will be making some adjustments to it by trying to remove the glare from the metallic letters but until then, here it is!!


Tell me whatcha think!


I have shifted most of my focus to preserving and enjoying life as it happens. I have been very fortunate in my recovery and I am grateful for that but not long ago I was taken back to a place I never thought I’d revisit. Not because I believed I was cured but because it slammed me against the wall with no mercy. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t know something was brewing but I did not expect it to be as severe as it were.

In true Candace form, I looked for the lesson in the pain and boy were there a few this time!! One that I took away was: I have become so comfortable with seclusion that I am not living. Don’t get me wrong, I am comfortable because I truly love the things I spend my time doing these days but for my mental wellness, it is not healthy for me to constantly be alone. Granted my thinking has been minimal, I can still do some damage with my thinker if left to my own devices.

On my creative journey, I have noticed that inspiration for projects come when I am enjoying life at the moment instead of sitting at home searching for it. This is where I draw my creativity from and when I do the bare minimum of it, my creative well runs dry.

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Having reconnected with my best friend (more on that later) I see a summer spent preparing (my) Kid for her senior year and helping my bestie with her four. This summer marks the second year that we all have not attended a music festival and we are all feeling it!

Being a single parent to four wild children that range in age from 14 – almost 5, I’d say she has her hands full. When a mutual friend reached out to me and insisted I check on her, I made the decision to express the pain I’ve felt from the two years of separation as well as why I had to step away. We cried and as always I devised a plan. One that we will carry out over the summer together.

We have a huge task ahead of us but I know that if we are consistent, it will be successful. I had reached a segment of my recovery where I had to step away from her to continue my journey but in doing so I carried guilt. One that wasn’t allowing me to progress rather contributed to my last breakdown. We have survived this life as one and I refuse to leave her behind to defend for herself and her four rugrats alone. I made it clear to her that I cannot and will not do so but she has to do her part because I can’t do it for her. She agreed. We cried, hugged and now comes time for some serious scheduling and discipline because her children are like ferell children doing as they please and running her home rampid with disrespect and terrible attitudes.

Today (yesterday) is the first day of summer here in NorthWest Louisiana and I am about to put action to a dream plan. I will not be posting verbatim my daily rigamarole but I will keep a notebook and a log. This is to serve as a record keeper for what worked and what didn’t. If you are curious about this project and want to receive progress updates, subscribe to receive theGarden in your inbox!

I am not taking on any projects that go outside of what my focus is. I’ve actually a few things in the works but I’m not going to speak on them because that’s when I place unnecessary pressure on myself and end up failing every single time. Things are looking up and I have no expectations attached. I want to laugh, love and live for crying out loud. That’s it! And those are the three things I am working towards these days, how about you?

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Last month I thought my WordPress plan was set to renew but that is only done when you have a card on file. My plan wasn’t due to expire until the 30th of May and while I had the money to renew last month, I decided not too for a few reasons.

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  • I am unsure of which plan will best suit my needs for the next twelve months
  • I have not decided on my set plan of attack for selling my memory keeping journals and journaling packets
  • I haven’t weighed my options about the benefits of having a paid for plan verses a free site considering I do not have a plan mapped out for selling things online
  • I have missed too much work to invest in something without seeing a return immediately
  • My only fret is that my design layout will be affected and I am not so certain I will invest the time to get it how I want it due to when I do decide having to invest the time on the new site
  • I have stepped back from blogging and reading blogs daily to avoid burnout
  • My personal life needs attention
  • The domain remains mine because it was purchased separately and at a later date from the plan so I do not fear the loss of it
  • I want to be more intentional with all I do from here on out
  • Direction, routine, and scheduling are things high on my short list of priorities and sticking to them is my biggest priority
  • A free site is suitable for the time being and forces me to establish an action plan in regards to my desires to work from home
  • I am unsure if I want to air my personal life in the same space I want to develop a professional relationship with customers
  • I may use a free site for personal and launch a professional site using a paid for site…the problem there lies not being able to transfer my following to my business site but having my followers on my free site allows them the choice to follow if my business is targeted at their individual interests
  • I’ve attempted operating two sites before and one suffered and the other never quite took off but in comparison to beginning my first site, it did well
  • I do not want to abandon my R.O.E. as my web persona but I also want to be respected professionaly
  • I have no clue what direction I want to go in professionally speaking
  • I am working on a few projects so my time is limited

Did I say a few reasons? Lol… It’s more than a few and I need more time to sort things out. The purpose of this post was to a. receive feedback and suggestions from my loyal followers b. to have my thoughts/questions/concerns listed out for reference c. to inform y’all that the overall design of R.O.E. is soon to change due to the fact that final decisions have not been made. Free themes are limited to chose from and if I am honest, I’m not pressuring myself to invest the time it takes to design a website without knowing my next move. If you have any insight into the operations of the WordPress business plan, Etsy, or Shopify please let me know your experience in the comments. Or do you use a self-hosted platform? If so, how much behind the scenes work is required? It is difficult and much more time consuming? Any feedback is great feedback!!

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Sad but True: R.O.E. News

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Updated 4.5.2019 – Thank you, Ashley, for your donation of $10 and for helping me figure it out. This problem has been solved ❤

Due to recent events, I am saddened to say that I cannot afford to pay the up-coming annual fee that allows me to operate Revenge of Eve.

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The annual fee of $97.00 is due no later than April 25th.


Because of a recent backslide in my mental health, I was forced to take a week off from work. There are no paid days off for those of us who work as service workers in the restaurant industry. On top of that, the hourly rate at which we are paid – $2.13, doesn’t compensate for any lost time acquired. Basically, I sell my personality in order to provide an income for my daughter and myself. When I am experiencing a mental episode I am unable to pretend that it does not exist. The timing in which this episode occurred couldn’t have come at a worse time; site renewal month.

As it stands, I owe $300.00 for March’s bills which I aim to pay, plus late fees, this week along with my car insurance and storage unit bills. This totals $575.00, not including late fees.

My living situation will also change in the upcoming two months. My daughter and I will get a small space of our own. April has always been the hardest month of the year for myself mentally for various reasons. I was hoping to change that this year but so far, yes only one day in, it isn’t looking so good. But I will say this… I am grateful to have a job, a roof over my head for the time being, and the ability to stay connected using my newsletter.


If you find it possible to donate, all donations will go to keep this site afloat.

If you wish to donate more than $5, you can do so by opting to purchase multiples by changing the number in the box allocated. This will be done in $5 increments ( number in box: 4=$20 example).

Paper packs will be available in two sizes and will include vintage papers, vintage ads, designer paper, cardstock and embellishments. No two packs will be the same. Want a custom theme pack? Chat with me to see if I have what you want!

Finding the silver lining in this situation, I will not lose the domain because it was purchased later than the plan. Please keep an eye out for postings that will offer paper product packages that can be used in your journals for creating beautiful pages or for use in your art journal projects. Because I currently do not have a store for such sales, purchasing a paper package will require you to send me your mailing address via email once payment is processed.

Shipping costs will be calculated into the price of each paper pack except for international shipping. Dependent on international shipping fees, it may not be worth it for you the consumer. Waiting until I have the store up and running may be your best bet for purchasing my products. Also, the prices reflected here are not necessarily the prices of my products in the future. Custom package prices differ.

I will do everything possible to keep things going here on Revenge of Eve. Blogging has been my saving grace and I fear that if it goes, so will I.

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